Well...It seems we have lost our ElderCare Care Giver Support Group leader. She went and got married and has moved to another state!
I am happy to continue this Blog if anyone wants to send me items for posting, although if there is anyone at Tenth who would like to take it on as a ministry, keeping people in touch with one another and posting helpful articles and links, I'll be happy to hand it over.
Monday 19 April 2010
Tuesday 5 January 2010
A Helpful Link Concerning Medicare and DOH analyses
For your information, here is a good web site comparison, via Dept of Health in PA, regarding nursing and rehab facilities. If someone at Tenth is looking for Medicare and DOH analyses, this is the place to get the information. This one is for Delaware county but all counties are available.
And I would very much like to become more involved in helping those who are seeking help for loved ones, in this regard. Please use me as a resource. I have learned so much in the past two months and perhaps God will use my knowledge to help other brothers and sisters.
Friday 18 December 2009
A Letter from Maxine
Cora,
I just thought I'd share with you what I am experiencing with my mother at a rehab/nusring facility so that you can pass on advice to others in my position, as family to one receiving such services.
This past Monday, I learned, quite by accident with a chatty nurse, that my mother was getting finger sticks 4 times a day to monitor her blood sugar levels because she was either "diabetic prone" or had "steroid treatment" in the recent past, neither of which was true. I put an end to this!
I also realized, after seeing it on her menu daily, that "reduced calories" meant that she had been getting a reduced calorie diet despite the fact that one horrendous concern was her radical weight loss at Crozer, who did not feed her for 8 days after her surgery. That stopped when I threatened to get ugly with the facility. Yet, tonight she had the reduced calorie menu again!
I looked at my mother's identification bracelet, quite by accident, but by God's providence and realized it was the ID bracelet for her roomate. The problems this could have caused were obvious, yet the nurse when told said, "I have no idea how that happened" and went back to work on charts, ignoring me. With my insistence, she went in and spent 5 minutes trying to get it off my mother's wrist. It was then that I learned that my mother had her own ID as well as the roomates, on her wrist........and I have no idea how that happened!
My mother has severe arthritis of the spine and severe scoliosis. I recently learned that she spends all day in a regular wheel chair, sitting straight up n a very awkward position, and requested a geri-chair that is padded and reclines. One week later, after being promised that she would have the new chair, she is still in the painful old chair.
And so it goes. I am aware that she is headed for eternity with the Lord and that I will eventually be with her, but I do not want her to suffer and she has no voice to complain, as she is aphasic, and she does not hear and the facility will not put in her hearing aid.
These are some of the travails of the care-giver. When our elderly members enter such places, maybe we can become involved. There are privacy and legal entachments, but what my mother has endured has been vile and unnecessary. What happened in Crozer where surgery was done, was as bad!
Our elderly saints need our protection. I am not sure how this can be accomplished but "just" praying may not be enough, whenthe elderly are unable to communicate on their own. Not sure what the outcome of my concerns will be but I am praying not only for my mother but for all of our saints who are in similar situations. And I do trust God will honor them and help us know how to help them.
Warm regards,
Maxine
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Cora,
I forgot to mention that what I will be doing is visiting, unannounced, this facility on a daily or every other basis. I already have a notebook filled with details, showing who, what when and where. In addition, I've already got the phone number of the Dept of Health where such violations as my mother has experienced can be reported. If these facilities think they will lose Medicare funding, they start changing things, as the state reports online show.
I just wonder how many elderly are in facilties and have no family to advocate for them including my mother's roomate whose "friend" visiting her, told me that she has only a legal advocate who sees her once a month.
And I am clearly reminded of the consequences of the original sin in our lives when I see what is happening here on earth. May God continue to have mercy on us and on our elderly saints whose lives are deteriorating prior to entering His kingdom.
Maxine
Sunday 22 November 2009
Friday 13 November 2009
A Note from Cora
Dear friends,
This week at the Caring for Caregivers class Bruce Gunther will be with us to talk about legal matters that caregivers need to know. I have heard this lesson once before and it is very, very good and full of valuable information.
While I haven't been able to reach Bruce to talk about what he plans to cover in his time with us, the last time he did this segment he talked about power of attorney, wills, estates, advance directives, etc.
If you are a caregiver, either long distance or in your home, you will definitely want to hear what Bruce has to say to us.
Also, we will have a room change for this Sunday( November 15th).
The Caregivers class will meet in the second floor rear class room, and the premarriage class will meet in our usual first floor classroom because one of our presenters for that class cannot do stairs, and we have been meeting in the handicap accessible room.
I look forward to seeing you on Sunday.
Cora
Saturday 7 November 2009
Sent: Friday, November 06, 2009 1:17 PM
Subject: Caregiver's Class
Hi Cheryl,
Pat and I were out of town last Sunday, so I don’t know what went on during the Caregiver’s class. The previous two weeks were led by Pastor Joseph Trumpetta. It’s hard for me to explain how much healing these two classes brought to my life without a very, very long email, but I’ll try to distill the essence of those classes.
The first week started with Joe showing a very short, but powerful film of an elderly woman sitting in a chair and simply expressing the solitude and loneliness she felt as well as the profound loss—particularly the loss of human touch. Her husband was deceased and the loss of human touch added to her general feeling of loneliness. The other severe loss was that of “personhood”. She was now a “problem” that needed to be dealt with by her family and this film was a powerful reminder that although she outwardly looked so frail and different, inside she was still the person she had always been.
The second week’s discussion was a continuation and follow-up from the first week. Pat and I were able to share that as a result of the class and the film that we made more of an effort to touch and hug my mother, to be more physical. I purposefully got a movie that I knew Mom would like and invited her to view it with me, asked Mom to join me on errands, instead of just running out by myself, things like that. Joe suggested that we spend time writing down our loved one’s stories. By doing so, this helps them to re-live events which reminds us who they are through the things they participated in. Another class participant brought her husband’s old baseball glove to the nursing home where he is due to Alzheimer’s disease and this helped him to remember and speak about “those baseball days”.
Joe shared some resources that he thought would be helpful as well:
“Caring for Your Aging Parents (When Love is Not Enough)” by Bob Deane. Pub. by NavPress
“Caring for a Loved One with Alzheimer’s Disease (A Christian Perspective)” by Eliz. T. Hall
magazine-“Living with Loss” 1-888-604-4673
Websites:
click on “Midlife & Beyond”, then click “Midlife Issues”, the click “Becoming Your Loved One’s Caregiver”.
“Serving and Challenging Seniors (To Encourage Ministry to and by Seniors)” by Dr. George Fuller 1-800-283-1357
This resource is the work of PCA Pastor, Dr. George Fuller and contains 8 chapters written by various pastors. I This is a well-recommended resource and a copy is in our own church library.
Although my circumstances at home have not changed, these two classes have impacted my life so that I am changed and am better able to actually enjoy this gift of caregiving that the Lord has graciously entrusted me with. To Him be all the glory!
Gina Glennon
Sunday 25 October 2009
A note from Gina
We have been back to the Caregivers class ( 11'o'clock/ 315 first floor back) and it’s been good to come together with fellow believers who are going through similar situations.
A few books that Deborah Armstrong has recommended over the last few weeks are:
“Overcoming Hurts and Anger” by Dwight Carlson;
“Make Anger Your Outcome” by Neil Clark Warren and
“In the Likeness of God” by Philip Yancey and Dr. Brand.
This last book speaks about the wonder of our human bodies as God has made them.
Also, if you or anyone you know suffers from seasonal disorders and in need of more sun than the winter months often give, a good resource is “The Sun Box Company”. http://www.sunbox.com/
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